It’s been a while since I’ve done a legitimate post on here…but I’m irritated by this behavior…so here goes nothing.
I’m a female—so my experience is confined to men when it comes to relationships. But I’m sure there are women out there too—and maybe I’m a little guilty of doing this.
When a guy/man is interested in you—and so much so to a point where he says very appropriately sweet things which totally riles me up( in a good way). You have great discussions, conversations—and everything is fab…But, unfortunately if you don’t give what this man is asking— right then and there or even just give him what he wants in that particular ball park of his desires, then instead of being upfront with you—and telling you “look, I want this and this, you can’t give it to me, that’s fine, but I can’t just be friends…or I can’t do this, thanks”—-end it up front, and go do whatever you want, but…no. I’ve noticed that I’ve attempted to have these great friendships, amazing conversations, light flirting with men and if I don’t just give them what they want they do something really hurtful—they phase you out or ignore you and date someone else( fine, but clearly you never liked me enough if you couldn’t wait ) or you don’t respect me enough as a human being to tell me the truth—or you can’t tell the truth. It’s irritating, hurtful.
This isn’t to single anyone out—but it’s something that’s unfortunately happened to me before—and I’ve done this to at least two people & I’m rectifying it by being upfront with one of the guys. Will it hurt him? yes, but leaving someone in the air is worse. It’s absolutely ruthless, and reckless.
SO to all the men and women who do this—STOP. Have a conversation like an adult, and let it go. It helps the other person too.